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Conquer The Room

There are two ways to shine in a structured social situation. The first one is to be famous, rich, or the one with the last bottle of booze. The second is to run the room.

In a previous post I discussed the power of the eye gaze. Now it is time to put it to good use. As the New Year approaches you should be making resolutions to take a more active role in your social life. You should be motivating yourself to crawl far from your comfort zone. Attend any and every party. Join organizations and go to their parties. Learn to become the king of the social domain.

It is hard to do this. To this day I must remind myself of time of the few basic tenants of running a room. However the more you practice the more seamless it becomes. While others will rely on liquid courage you will rely on your veins of ice.

The room should be dark until you walk in. You are the blue glowing light that attracts all to you. They will be electrified by your presence.

Do not leave your home unless you will be the best dressed person out. This is not hard. Purchase Esquires Handbook of Style. Live it.

First you must learn how to enter.

This is not for amateurs. You must ascertain the secret spread the aura of an entrance presence. I will not tell you how to do this. Each of us has our own delivery system. You must tailor make it to yourself.

However there are things that I remind you of.

I – When you first walk in pause for a moment. Slowly move your head and take in the world before you. Take notice where the wall flowers are as well as the high energy individuals. Make eye contact with those that make it with you. Hold it until they turn away. Remind yourself, this was nothing until you arrived.

II – If you have friends already at the venue approach them slowly and deliberately. Flow through the crowd. If there is no one approach the bar (if there is one) and begin building a relationship with the bar-tender. Introduce yourself when buying your drink. Pay cash and tip well. Always cultivate this rapport.

Your entrance complete, perhapse a drink in hand as you slowly build a relationship with the hard-liquor meister it is time to begin your domination.

Warning. Always hold your drink below eye gaze. Never in front of you. This creates a subconscious barrier and will it harder to talk to people.

Many boys make the mistake of approaching the attractive girls first. This is a mistake. Remember you are not concerned about getting laid. You refuse to smell of desperation. You are there to make the world a better place for everyone present. This means that you must do two things.

A – Approach the wallflowers. The preponderance will be socially awkward and fearful of social interactions. Shyness. You must help the wallflowers bloom. You are the rich soil, the caressing sunrays, and life-giving rain storm. From my own experience the wall-flowers are some of the most interesting people at a party as well as the ones that have the possibility of helping you reach a level beyond what you have already attained.

They will remember you.

B – Swoop the Ignored. In any group of conversation there will always be that person that appears if they have been pushed out of the conversation. Approach these conversational cast-offs. Unlike wallflowers, whom you may approach willy-nilly you need a “reason” to talk to them. I personally utilize an observational tone or make a statement how “I wish I had the courage to dance as freely as that kid.”

Eventually they will introduce you to the rest of the group and you can quietly spread your magical seduction.

When in a conversation with a person remember the Golden Rule: People love talking about themselves. The longer you allow them to talk about themselves the more they like you.

Silver Rule: People are intrigued by the mysterious. You must be the mysterious aspect at all times.

When I enter a conversation with someone I do everything in my power to steer the conversation towards them. Talleyrand. When they become self-conscious and notice that they have been talking about yourself and ask a question about you. Answer vaguely and steer the conversation towards them again.

Example: (This person is studying psychology)

They: So what’s your major?
You: I’m studying international relations, but my real passion lies in micro-expressions. Have you covered Paul Eckman in your classes and his study on emotions and facial muscles?

What you have done here is given an answer, but once again pushed the conversation into a domain they are comfortable with.

Many people are afraid that they will not have anything to say to someone. The beauty of this method is that the conversation is fueled by them while you learn about the person and figure out if they are someone you wish to add to your life.

Now earlier I mentioned that you should refrain from attacking the attractive girls at first entrance. This is because you need to build a foundation. Girls are all about social standing. You must create the highest possible.

Now if you are hard-pressed for time, such as bar-hopping, I will offer you the cheat sheet.

Nod your head up at every guy you pass.

They will return your nod. I do not know why, but they will. Even I will acknowledge someone who acknowledges me with a nod. Handshakes no, nod yes.

If you do this to enough people, girls will notice and think that you are some big shot. Interests will be peaked.

Go out. Practice. Dominate. Acolytes will follow.

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